Dating Safety Tips

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Dating can be an exciting and fun experience, but it's important to keep yourself safe at all times. Whether you are texting somebody online or meeting them for coffee, reasonable caution can prevent you from becoming a victim of fraud, harassment, or worse. This is our advice to stay safe when dating online and in-person:

Online Dating

Use a dating app that prioritizes user safety

There are countless dating apps, but not all of them have the same level of security as Marshmallo. Before creating an account, do some research to find a reputable dating app that prioritizes safety and privacy. Look for platforms that require users to verify their government-issued photo ID, selfie and profile pictures. Also look for dating apps that have a clear policy against harassment and abuse, prevent unwanted messaging and provide tools to report and block suspicious or malicious users.


Keep personal information to yourself

It’s best to get to know someone before sharing any kind of personal information like your full name, date of birth, cellphone number or address. The person you are talking to could potentially use that information to steal your identity or stalk you. You should use the dating app’s messaging system until you feel comfortable sharing your contact information. Even then, consider using a secondary email address or phone number to protect your privacy. Be cautious about sharing photos that reveal identifying details such as your workplace, school, or home. You should also avoid reusing photos from social media sites. Google reverse image search could be used by a stranger to figure out who you are.


Don’t send explicit photos

Be wary of sending explicit photos online because they can be used to blackmail or harass you. Photos that you share with somebody else may be unlawfully distributed online without your consent. If somebody pressures you to send explicit photos, you should report their behavior to the dating app and block the user. Likewise, if somebody sends you unsolicited explicit photos, you should report and block them.


Video call first

Before a first date, schedule a video call to verify the person's identity and get a better sense of their personality. Doing a video call can identify if somebody is catfishing you. If you can’t or don’t want to do a video call because you don’t want to dress up or aren’t in a private place, consider doing a phone call instead. Although it is better to do a video call, you can still tell a lot about somebody from their voice. If somebody says they grew up near you but they have a foreign accent, you should be suspicious. You should be skeptical of anybody who does not want to do a video or voice call before meeting in-person.


Take your time and ask questions

Don't rush into meeting someone in person, even if you feel a strong connection. Take the time to get to know the person better through online conversations and phone calls. Ask them questions about their background, interests, and values. Pay attention to inconsistencies or evasiveness in their answers, as these could be signs of dishonesty or deception. If someone avoids answering your questions or tries to change the subject, it's a red flag that they may not be trustworthy.


Research your date

Before meeting someone in person, do some online research to learn more about them. You can search their name, phone number, email address, or social media profiles to see if there are any red flags or warning signs. You can also use online background check services or public records databases to verify somebody’s identity, criminal history, or employment. While this may seem invasive, it's a reasonable precaution to take when meeting someone from the internet.


Avoid romance scams

Be suspicious of anyone who asks you for money or financial assistance. Scammers often use dating platforms to trick people into sending them money, gifts, or personal information. Scammers can be very persuasive. They may ask for help covering medical bills, to pay for their mortgage or even just for gas money so they can meet you. Urgent requests probably indicate you are being scammed. No matter what you do, do not give money to or share financial information with somebody online that you have not met in person. Mispelled words, poor grammar, relatively few photos and a lack of social media presence are all signs the person you are talking to may not be who they say they are. Also be skeptical if somebody tries to move the conversation to a different platform like KIK or Snapchat. Oftentimes, dating apps have moderating technologies and policies in place that a scammer will try to avoid. If you are doubtful about a profile, get a second opinion. If a trusted friend or family member is also suspicious, you should stay away. Lastly, do not be ashamed or embarrassed if you have been scammed and report the profile to the authorities. Online dating scams are a rapidly growing source of fraud.


In-Person Dating

Meet in a public place

It's always a good idea to meet your date in a public location that's well-lit and populated, such as a restaurant, coffee shop or park. Avoid going to secluded areas or somebody’s home or apartment on the first date, as this can be dangerous and make it harder to get help if something goes wrong. If your date insists on a private setting or you don't feel comfortable with the location, trust your instincts and cancel the date. Consider meeting in the daytime when visibility is good. For extra safety, choose the location of the first date. If somebody you don’t know chooses the location, it’s possible they could plan something in advance there to your detriment. After your date is over, avoid walking alone in the dark. You may also want to wait until your date leaves first to make sure that person is not following you home.


Share your plans

Before heading out on the date, let a friend or family member know where you're going, who you're meeting and when you expect to be back. Share your date's name, phone number and any other relevant details, such as their photo. Arrange to check in with your friend or family member after the date to let them know you're safe. A lot of smartphones have a location tracking and sharing feature that you may want to temporarily or permanently enable.


Charge your phone

In addition to being your means of communication, phones can be used for transportation, navigation and making purchases. They can even be used as a makeshift flashlight. Make sure your phone is charged and within reach during the date. Consider downloading safety apps or features that can track your location, send distress signals or automatically call emergency services.


Watch your drink

Be cautious of accepting drinks from strangers or leaving your drink unattended. Date rape drugs such as Rohypnol, GHB, and Ketamine can be slipped into drinks without your knowledge, causing you to become incapacitated or unconscious. If you feel unwell or disoriented after drinking, seek help immediately and contact the authorities. Don’t hesitate to enlist a waiter or bartender for help.


Trust your instincts

If something feels off or uncomfortable during the date, trust your gut and leave. Don't ignore red flags such as aggressive behavior, controlling attitudes or inappropriate language. It's always better to be safe than sorry.


Plan your own transportation

Don’t rely on somebody you haven’t met in-person to take you to your first date because that makes you more vulnerable. Plan your transportation in advance and consider using a ride-sharing service or public transportation to get to and from the date. If you're driving, make sure your car is in good working condition and keep your gas tank filled. If your date offers to pick you up, decline and suggest meeting at the agreed-upon location instead.


Be wary of unexpected gifts and surprises

Be mindful of receiving gifts from your date, especially if you didn't expect them. While it may seem sweet, it's important to be cautious, as it could be a tactic to gain your trust and manipulate you. If you receive a gift or surprise, don't feel obligated to reciprocate or show more interest in the person than you feel comfortable with.


Dating can be a fun and rewarding experience, but it's important to prioritize safety at all times. By following these tips for staying safe online and in-person, you can enjoy the dating process without putting yourself at risk. Remember, your safety is always your top priority, and it's okay to say no or walk away from a situation that doesn't feel right.

How Marshmallo keeps you safe

ID check

When you sign up, you take a picture of your government-issued photo ID. We use the same verification process as banks. Marshmallo is the first free dating app or social network to verify every member’s identity.

Selfie check

You take a selfie, and we make sure it matches your photo ID.

Offender check

We check over 700,000 names in over 300 databases to make sure nobody on Marshmallo is a registered sex offender. According to the FBI, over 1 in 10 offenders has an online dating profile, but they are not on Marshmallo.

Profile check

We use artificial intelligence to make sure every member’s profile picture matches their selfie and photo ID.

Free

Safety features are necessary and should be free.

Unwanted messaging

You can only receive one message from people unless you respond. You don’t have to worry about people you don’t want to talk to messaging you over and over again.

First Initial

We only share your first initial with people.

Privacy

You can limit the visibility of your religion, political preferences or other information to people with the same answers.

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Quick answers

What does Marshmallo do with the information from my photo ID?

Marshmallo extracts your name, date of birth, gender and height. We also extract the photo of you on the ID, but we do not extract or retain a photo of the entire ID. We use the information to pre-populate your profile, to prevent catfishing and to exclude registered sex offenders. We do not extract or store your driver’s license number, passport number or address. We use a third party identity verification provider called Persona who is also used by major banks. Persona is SOC-2 compliant which is business speak for secure. Read Persona's security, privacy, and compliance overview.


Do I have to pay for Marshmallo or is it free?

The basic features of Marshmallo are free and always will be. In fact, a majority of our users pay nothing. Marshmallo makes money by charging for optional premium features like super likes, advanced filters and see who likes me.


How does Marshmallo keep me safe?

We have a detailed page dedicated to dating safety features. In short, we verify people’s government-issued photo IDs to prevent catfishing and deter bad people from joining. We exclude registered sex offenders and we limit unreciprocated messages to prevent harassment. At your option, we limit the visibility of some of the information on your profile to people with matching answers to protect your privacy. We also keep your first name private until you match and we never share your last name.